Author: Lynda Madaras and Area Madaras
(recommended age: 12 +)
Sex is a topic brought up many times in the Bible, which reveals its spiritual priority. God’s word is very clear about human sexuality, and we are commanded to raise our children under the Lord’s specific instruction regarding this sensitive subject. In contrast, it is not an option for Christian parents to allow children to imitate their worldly peer group. Our Lord is very clear in His command to stay pure. He created sex as a privilege and a blessing when kept within the confines of a loving, Christian marriage. Outside of that marriage, sex becomes a tool for self-gratification, too often resulting in disease, abuse, abandonment, and unwanted pregnancies. Our culture has cheapened it dramatically; waiting for marriage is all but unheard of among teens today. Lacking any social or spiritual guidance for our next generation, this “Growing up Guide” only reinforces that perception.
“What’s Happening to My Body” sends a message to its reader that cheapens the human body. Inside, our preteens are exposed to many illustrations of naked men and women-fully exposed. Topics include organ names and functions, circumcision, erection, and ejaculation. Along with scientific names, the author lists 30 slang terms for male sex organs and 20 for female parts. Many of the words presented here to our children-in every middle school classroom, without any context, definition, or guidance-are highly inappropriate and offensive objectification of a woman’s body. I think you will agree. (See pages 11 and 12.)
The authors of this book encourage casual sex. Here are just a few examples (again, there is no accompanying instruction as to how this information is to be evaluated or used):
Women can have fraternal twins who have two different fathers if she has sex with two different men when she ovulates. (page 24)
Learning how to give yourself pleasure can be the first step in learning how to have sexual pleasure with someone else someday. (page 81)
One good thing about puberty is that you can get into R-rated movies. (Page 124)
Homosexual acts are experienced by many people while they are growing up. (Page 212)
Few believe that homosexuality is morally wrong anymore. It’s perfectly healthy, normal, and acceptable.
It doesn’t matter if you start dating when you are 13 or 20. What’s important is that you feel good about yourself.
The topic of reproduction is approached by the authors in a very objective way; female organs and male organs come together, and if an egg is fertilized, the female will become pregnant. Your child will be left to guess where, when, and why any of this should (or shouldn’t) take place. Our job as parents is to make sure our children have that information. Do not assume that someone who supports your beliefs and values will teach them. Why?Even if a teacher believes as you do, it is no longer legal to do so. Christianity has been banned from the classroom. Before you allow your child’s innocence to be stolen, you must ask yourself- is this what God wants my child to be learning about? Is this the best that I can give this child of the One True King? If you truly believe that you are not your own, and that you were bought with the very blood of Jesus- you will strive for something more.
It is time for us to stand up to this national crisis- we pray that it is not too late. Our girls are put under extreme pressure to have sex. Our boys are constantly fed pornographic images, teaching them to objectify women (and other men), and to develop unnatural appetites and addictions.It’s no wonder that child pornography, adult pornography, human trafficking, and abortion are rampant in our society today.
“Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit Who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore, glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s. “ ( I Cor 6:18-20)