Sometimes Silvernesters worry that bringing in a roommate and shifting their home around means they won’t get to enjoy some of the things they love. Intentional planning is the answer.

Make a list of the things you love doing in and around your home. Here are some thoughtstarters:

  • Hosting friends for a weekly bunko group or book club

  • Sewing, crafting or other hobbies

  • Cooking big elaborate meals a few times a week

  • Drinking coffee in solitude on the patio or in your favorite chair

  • Watching sports, old movies or your favorite shows, and cheering/laughing/sobbing as much as you want

Everyone will have a different list. Some of these things are absolutely critical, and must be discussed with any potential renters. Others are still important but could be modified without sacrificing your enjoyment.

For example:

  • You could create space for your hobby in an under-used dining room or sunroom

  • You could get a TV for your bedroom, so you can enjoy your shows in private when you want

  • You could get an inexpensive lattice screen, outdoor table and chairs to create a secluded patio area that’s only for your use

As you consider these things, err on the side of having everything the way you want it. You are the homeowner, and too much compromise may create resentment down the road.

On the other hand, you may find that many of the specifics don’t matter that much and a change would do you good. In fact, you might just enjoy the challenge of finding a creative solution!

The one thing you should not do is ignore these feelings. Taking a clear-eyed look at any potential sticking points—and planning ahead for how to solve them—is the path to success.

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