Protect Your Sobriety
Keep alcohol, drugs, and paraphernalia out of shared spaces.
Step out if your partner is using—walk, call a friend, or go to a meeting.
Stay consistent with your recovery meetings and support network.
Talk Clearly & Calmly
Use “I feel…” statements, not blame.
Only discuss boundaries when both are sober and calm.
Avoid arguing during use—state needs clearly, without threats.
Protect Your Emotional Health
Their recovery is their responsibility, not yours.
Don’t cover up or make excuses for their use.
Keep your own therapy, support group, hobbies, and friendships.
Set Relationship Boundaries
No substances at family events or shared commitments.
Avoid serious talks when they’re intoxicated.
Know your non-negotiables (violence, kids’ safety, finances).
Have a safety plan if home feels unsafe.
Stay Connected Safely
Celebrate honesty and effort, even small steps.
Spend time together in sober activities.
Share recovery resources—don’t push.
Love your partner without enabling.
Emergency Plan
Safe place to go: ____________
People to call: ____________
Quick grounding activities: ____________
✅ Tip: Boundaries protect you, not punish your partner. They’re about keeping yourself safe, not controlling anyone else.