We expect our users to appreciate the importance of consent at Tune. We think that partnerships should be founded on mutual respect and communication. Mutual consent should be agreed upon by all parties without the use of pressure, guilt, or coercion.
In collaboration with safety experts and campaigners, we've developed guidelines for gaining consent and setting personal limits both on and off Tune.
Consent is in demand. Dating becomes easier and more enjoyable when partners agree on what behaviour is comfortable and acceptable and what behaviour crosses a personal limit.
This is your path. Be you. Because everyone has distinct likes and dislikes, active communication is essential while getting to know someone.
Feel empowered. We all have changing ideas and moods, so it's critical to check in on intimate contacts on a regular basis, both online and in person, and to feel empowered to say yes or no.
Boundaries must be respected. If someone answers no, respect and accept their decision while being respectful of their feelings.
Always go with your instinct. Don't feel obligated to say yes to anything you're not completely comfortable with.
How communication can establish personal boundaries:
To minimise misunderstandings, always seek their preferences and use straightforward language. "Are you comfortable talking about what you like and dislike sexually?" is one method to find out if someone is at ease. I'd like to learn more about your priorities."
It's fine to set and stick to boundaries. Accept "no" with empathy and be supportive of people who establish boundaries.
Not in the mood? Make it known:
Because we all change our ideas and moods, it's critical to check in on intimate contacts on a regular basis, both online and in person. Just because someone said "yes" once does not guarantee that they would be in the mood again the next time. Sometimes you agree to do something, but then you or the other person change your mind once it starts. It is critical to communicate and then respect each other's boundaries. If you are feeling uneasy, you could say, "I'm starting to feel uncomfortable and would like to stop talking about this." Be empathetic and helpful if someone feels uneasiness. It is as simple as stating, "That's okay!"
Safety and consent do not end when conversations move off-app or when meeting IRL. If you feel uncomfortable at any point or want to report someone for crossing your boundaries, we are here to support you. To report a user through the app simply select the three dots at the top right of their profile and tap Report or reach out to us at hello@tune.date